“Love thy neighbour as thyself”, said Jesus Christ. Yet how many people do really love their neighbours? Usually there prevails a great tension among the neighbours on some point of dispute or the other. Many people just tolerate neighbours because there is no war to get rid of them. Here and there people change their houses, if they are tenants and cannot pull on with their neighbours. Some people even sell their houses because they find their neighbourhood is not congenial to their tastes.
It is for this reason season we often say well-known saying, “Blessed are those who have good neighbours”.
There are very few neighbours among whom amity prevails. If there is love among the neighbours, it is like something out of paradise, because your neighbour is nearer to you than your kith and kin. He can be always helpful to you when other people cannot reach you. There is a romantic possibility of boys and girls playing together in their childhood getting married ultimately. Such a marriage is likely to be the happiest because its attachment goes back to infancy.
It is usually of boys and girls next to door to peep into each other’s courtyard’s and admire each other, even if they are not on speaking terms. Neighbours are thrown together by God like a fellow travelers in a bus or train and it is the best to be tolerant of each other, even though true love and admiration may be lacking. That is why Jesus said, “Love thy neighbour”. If you do not love even your neighbour, how can you love rest of the world?
Women admire men in the neighbour and men admire the women in the vicinity if they have nothing unpleasantness about them. “My neighbour is a sort of husband my wife would like to have”, is a famous proverb. The same may also be said about the neighbouring wives. “My neighbour is a type of wife my husband would have to”. After all the things work out both ways. What are true of men are equally true women. What is goose for the one is gander for the other.
There is no doubt that the neighbours take keen interest in the affairs of each other’s even they are not on speaking term. They want to know all that is happening in their close neighbourhood. They peep through hole and even hear whispers to find out what is happening on the other side of the wall. They engage even maid servants and sweepers to inform them about all that is happening in the house of the neighbour next door. If the neighbours are rich and affluent they want to know what prestigious gadgets the other party possesses, how much money it spends, what kind of furniture it has in the house what are the kinds of friends and foes they have. In case of any feud between them, they are once carrying the tables to their friends and foes and try to alienate their friend and sow seeds of bitterness among foes. In any case of trouble, they align themselves, with the foes of the neighbour and make a common cause with them.
Your neighbour has claim upon privacy and your time. It is the best not to deny such claims but willingly accept the exigencies of the solution. Why resent something which is inevitable? Neighbours are people like fellow travelers. Life is nothing but a short journey. Let us live it as happily as we can. Why make it more miserable than it really is?
Good neighbour selections are generally based on enlightened self interest. Every family has its weakness and quota of problems. Understanding your neighbour can contribute a great deal in facilitating smooth conduct of our day to day appearance. The worsening law and order situation in metropolitan cities has enhanced the desirability of closer and better neighbour selection.
Good neighbours add spice to our life. They not only enliven our hours of leisure with their lively company but to come to share our labours whenever we have to organize a function or we are in grief.